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When I started stripping in the back bar of a Christchurch brothel at 18, I was in control of my decision to get nude — or so I thought.

Since puberty, I had been aware of men staring at me in public. I fought hard to prove otherwise. Tue 10 May Strippers are not the problem — they're just doing a job Frankie Mullin.

I know now that male-dominated society needs this stigma to maintain the status quo. Opinion Society. With hindsight, the social stigma was hugely disempowering. I also wanted the independence to make my own choices.

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With stripping, I could travel the world and I did, walking into instant employment in clubs in Melbourne and London. Additionally, what I did for work on weekends was seen as the sum total of who I was.

So I stayed. I did it by default. It brought financial independence, freedom and flexibility.

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Stripping delivered, on all counts. I felt totally empowered. An arts undergraduate, I had no pressing need for money, the reason usually cited for entry into the sex industry — an umbrella term that encompasses stripping, web-camming, escorting, prostitution and porn.

And still I told myself it was my choice. Besides, I could hardly put stripping on my fledgling .

Rather, I was seeking transgression. Putting myself up onstage and demanding payment for being watched were exertions of control.

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Sex workers were stigmatised as morally bankrupt, lacking in self-respect, so not worthy of respecting. On the neon-lit stage of that back bar, I let loose my inner extrovert. My parents paid my rent, my Kentucky Fried Chicken and my living expenses. I worked alongside fierce women paying off mortgages and masters degrees, raising children and starting charities. I hated the popular belief that sex workers were oppressed and without agency, victims in need of rescuing. While stripping provided an opportunity to launch myself into the big wide world on my terms, it was also a chance to capitalise on my feelings of powerlessness.

Is working as a stripper honestly empowering? With hindsight, what appeared to have been a conscious choice might have actually been heavily influenced. Looking back, that possibility, coupled with the superficiality of the work and its instant reward, meant I never had to go deep and figure out what I truly valued.

The constant judgment, often from people who had never been inside a strip club, left me excluded from normal life.

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I saw stripping as liberating. No other profession I knew paid women ificantly more than men.

It needs to typecast women, to separate them into virgins and whores, because it needs a justification for the male gaze and for placing women at the sexual service of men. That was about individual choice, right? The goal of making money became an end in itself.

Often it was worse than the work itself, where I could, by and large, control my exploitation and maintain my boundaries and self-worth. Reuse this content.

I could choose my hours, take time off and still have a job to come back to. I had the right to choose. And I did choose stripping, again and again.